NEWS FLASH: He's just not that into you

My ex and I broke up nearly 4 months ago and I am still struggling to forget him.

I am not sure I understand why I am still hanging on, when he's made it obvious he's just not that into me. *sigh*

1 month pre-breakup

Stopped saying "I love you" or "I miss you"

Stopped picking my calls.

Replied pings after about half an hour or more

Stopped having meaningful conversation (just good morning and good night)

Withdrew from me, even went as far as blocking me off his wall on facebook.

Post-Breakup

Takes between 1 hour - 2 days to reply pings.

Never mentioned the relationship/break-up

Made the fact that he was dating someone else public 3 months after we broke up (I believe they have been dating for much longer)

Hmmnn! EG, how pathetic do you sound? Kai, babe, you need to forget this guy and let go oo abi you need someone to slap some sense into you? The next thing you will hear is his wedding date, stay there and be wallowing in self pity you hear?

I feel so much better writing all these down, it's therapeutic. I have now officially closed this chapter of my life and excited about what the future has in store for me.

xoxo

EG

Life....

So I haven't updated this in about 2 months and a whole lot has happened in that time.

I am now single, celebrated my birthday and have made some wonderful new friends.

The break up was painful for me. The relationship even though short (4 months) made me realise how much I needed to learn about Nigerian men.

Yes I dated someone for nearly a decade but he was all I had ever known and subconsciously expected every man to behave like him.

How wrong I was, I am glad I got to learn though as I would rather have a broken relationship than a broken marriage.

Now, I am ready to start dating again BUT where are the men? Ladies who are in the diaspora may understand where I am coming from. I see men on a daily basis but only very very few are marriage material especially here in the UK.

How does one find a decent man with a decent job who isn't hooked or quarter to be hooked in obodo oyibo? lol. I see some 30-35 year old ladies here who are single and don't want to be them 3 or more years down the line.

I am planning to relocate to 9ja as I don't want to "settle" or marry oyibo. Which leads me to the next headache getting a job in Nigeria. If i'm going to quit my job here and move back, I'd rather get a job first as I believe me having a job makes me more attractive to prospective employers.

I have used sites like jobberman, naijahotjobs and nairaland but nothing has come up yet. If anyone got a job in 9ja from the diaspora please let a sister know how you went about it abeg.

I will try to update this more often and hopefully will have some good news to share soon.

xoxo

EG

Skin Issues Vol 2

Skin Issues Vol 1

Another Monday morning but I am in a better mood this week than I was last. The bright and relatively "sunny" weather helps.

Back to topic I started using the Clinique 3 step system June 2011 and my skin is a lot better than it was.

I did not realise how much dead skin I had on my face and neck until the clarifying lotion started sloughing them away.

I have tried other products in between but I always come back to the 3 step system. While it isn't 100% it is at least keeping my skin clear about 60% of the time.

In addition, I am taking the supplements MSM and ALA. I also try to eat fruits, drink lots of water and avoid fatty foods.

I am still on the hunt for something cheaper which is more or as effective as the system.

For my acne scars, I have recently bought the Clinique even better dark spot corrector and so far so good I haven't seen any major improvement.

All in all my skin care regimen is still a work in progress but it is a lot better than it was 2 years ago.

xoxo

EG.

Skin Issues Vol 1

All my life I never had acne. I had a few spots here and there during my time of the month but that was about it.

Now tell me why in my late 20's acne has finally decided to invade my face? Hardly a day goes by when new spots aren't appearing. The worse bit is they ALWAYS leave black spots no matter how careful I am about not picking or touching them.

My once clear face is now covered in black spots and you can barely see my skin :(.

I have tried almost all there is to try. In 2009, I went to see my GP who prescribed Oxytetracyclin which worked to a certain degree. What he failed to tell me was this was going to make my face photosensitive and needed to wear sunscreen/sunblock.

After 6 months, my face got super dark and I got a sunburn!!! sunburn me? I am quite dark so it was quite the achievement. I stopped taking it and all was fine for like 6 months then it came back with full force.

I decided to stop using all products on my face wand was cleansing with my bathing soap and moisturising with E45; bad move!!! The result was super dehydrated and scaly skin. It was just horrendous.

Okay this is too long already. I will continue in volume 2.

xoxo

EG

Monday Blues

It's Monday, I am tired, grouchy and still sleepy yet on my way to work.

I don't know why but I feel so alone today. You see I'm Nigerian but have lived in England for sometime now. My parents and siblings all still reside in Nigeria. I am sort of used to be being far away from them but there are days I wish I could just walk to my mum and tell her all that's bothering me and get the usual reassurance that everything will be alright.

I have been really unhappy for some time now but in reality I shouldn't be. A lot has happened that I should be thankful for.

The Good

1. My brother finally got a job.

2. I am dating a new guy who I love so much and sometimes I feel like this will be my undoing.

3.My mum is moving up at work

4. I am doing really well at work, getting nominated for awards and getting special recognition.

5. I am healthy and alive.

6. Every member of my family is healthy and alive.

7. I still have a job LOL.

The Bad

1. My dad was suddenly retired from work. He's been really unhappy and I worry every day about his state of mind.

2. I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly a decade.

3. I am in a long distance relationship :(

Sigh!!! I have so much to be thankful for, I don't know what my problem is o.

xoxo

EG

Hello :)

So I have never been big on writing to purge but I have gotten to a point in my life where keeping it all in no longer works.

This blog is essentially going to be a diary of my life and some random stuff I think is worth mentioning.

Hopefully you lot will enjoy it and share in my laughs, joys and tears.

xoxo

EG